It’s the time of year when evenings are getting darker, scarves are dug out from winter storage, and leaves litter the street. Autumn is here, and soon it will be the end of another year.
This time of year we tend to panic. We have so much to do, so many people to see, and so much to finish before the clocks strike midnight on December 31st.
We need to celebrate with friends. Have seasonal events with family. Finish those major work projects. Not to mention find that New Years’ dress, and do all the Christmas shopping.
Do yourself a favour this year, and end the year right. End the year doing what is right for you, not what is expected.
If you are feeling stretched for time, prioritise and make sure you have some you time. If you are worrying about the resolutions you set in January, don’t. Focus instead on the achievements and successes you have had this year. Goals are guidelines, but not the measure of success. Your happiness is your success.
As October comes to a close, I have four main priorities for the last two months of the year.
Enjoy my favourite season
Autumn is the best season of the year. I will be savouring every moment of candlelit nights in. Garden events snuggled around the fire pit. Conkers, reading in warm knitted layers and of course, sparklers!
I won’t be worrying about embracing fall fashion trends I don’t own. I know my own personal style, and I have a great capsule wardrobe for the season. Instead, I will spend my time and money on books, adventures and wintery walks.
I won’t get worried about missing nights out when I am happy at home. It’s the season to prioritise you, your health and your happiness. Cold nights out mean for cosy nights in.
I won’t be giving material items, even though stores have already been marketing this to me since the end of August. I hope to give time, experiences and support to friends, family and those in need.
Don’t get busy
This is the time of year when we panic about fitting it all in before Auld Lang Syne begins on New Years’ Eve.
My advice to you. Stop.
Stop worrying about seeing everyone and anyone. You can still visit them in January, and guess what, it might be a nice way to ward off the new year blues.
The shopping, cooking, baking and decoration shopping you need to do? Sit down and look at what is actually essential. This year I am planning to spend a Sunday making batches of soup to freeze. Lunch sorted for the year.
Decorations? I won’t be buying store made fancy décor this year. Instead I am going to work with what is available to me from winter walks and use what is in my small but super Christmas box from last year. Think pinecones, glittery conkers and holly. This way I can save on time and money.
Projects, deadlines and more? Take a deep breath. It’s okay. Your goals and resolutions will still be very valuable and real in 2017. Or embrace a year without goals and just have guidelines for your success next year. I started the year wanting to travel. No goal for number of trips. Just to travel. Guess what? I did it and I think I managed to see more than I had even expected.
Not setting it as a goal means no failure, just happiness, and that’s great.
You choose to be busy or not. If it is feeling like too much, you can choose to stop it.
This is a great time to look back and think about the year. Do you feel like it all got away from you? Are you happy with your choices this year.
Reflect on the rights. Be aware of the wrongs. Choose to not repeat the things which have made you unhappy next year.
I will soon be writing my ‘things I have learned’ this year post, and maybe it is an opportunity for you to do the same.
This year I am happy I travelled, wrote a lot more and dedicated time to my blogging. I am so pleased I became an aunt.
As long as what you are doing is making you happy, you’re doing it right.
So, with two months of the year left, end it right. Don’t panic about a year lost, embrace two more months of opportunity.